The Kind of Mom
Every Child Remembers
Ten ordinary moments, and the words to reach for in each one.
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A steady hand when it all feels too big. A soft place to land after a hard day. Those lines are easy to save. This guide is about what they sound like at 7:52 on a school morning, with one sock half off and the bus at 8:00.
Those moments don’t come with instructions — and this isn’t another system to follow. It’s ten of them, written out: what’s going on underneath, the words to reach for, and what to do when it doesn’t go well.
Not a perfect way to parent. Just a little more clarity for the moments that matter.
A note from the author
There’s something I wish someone had told me when I first became a mother:
your children may not remember the ordinary Tuesday, but they’ll remember how it felt to be loved on one.
I wrote this guide so you don’t have to learn it alone.
Each chapter begins with a moment you’ll recognize, then helps you slow it down and find a way forward.
When It All Gets Too Big
A four-year-old on the kitchen floor at 7:52, one sock half off, the bus at 8:00. Four lines to reach for — plus the morning in my own house when the problem turned out to be a seam in a sock.
Six Minutes
Three stuffed animals, a shoebox, and rules that change every eight seconds. Why six short minutes beat a long distracted hour — and what to say when you can’t play right now.
Good Job, and Why It Doesn’t Land
A pile of couch cushions she calls a castle. Five things to say instead of “good job” — including the one children keep.
After You Lose It
The chapter on coming back afterward: why an apology lands better without an explanation attached, and why a late one still counts.
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A closer look at what’s really happening, and what to say instead.
When They Show You What They Made
She spent 45 minutes building a little castle. Now she’s excited to show you how it works.
A simple way to notice the thinking behind their work.
When the Juice Hits the Rug
A full cup on the rug. She freezes, watching your face.
A simple way to respond without making the moment bigger than it needs to be.
After a Moment You’d Take Back
Twenty minutes later, the house is quiet again.
What to say when you come back after losing your temper.
Ten chapters, and ten pages
from my own house.
Every chapter includes an “In My House” page — real moments from my own parenting.
The morning a sock seam became the problem. The parking lot where fear came out as a shout. The evening I did my ten-year-old’s homework for her.
Alongside those stories is research, with its limits clearly stated.
A parenting guide, not clinical advice.
Written by Daniela Paes, mother of two daughters.
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Ten ordinary moments, from the meltdown to the repair.
A warm opening note, with the idea the whole book is built on.
What usually comes out, and the sentence to try instead.
The morning a sock seam became the problem.
Why the first ninety seconds matter more than the questions.
One instruction for each of the hard moments, to read in a minute.
One small experiment a day: what to do, what to say, what to watch for.
10 chapters. 102 lines to say. One payment of $27.
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“A steady hand when it all feels too big.” The line you saved, and the kitchen floor at 7:52 where you actually need it.
Instead of “Stop it. Get up.” try “I know. I know. It’s too much right now.” The words that make the line real.
One small thing to try today, and a page for the days it doesn’t go to plan. That mom is made of ordinary days.
Not a list to live up to. A practical companion for the ordinary days it describes.
Four tools for the days
that already went wrong
Part Two of the book, separate from the chapters, so nothing has to be looked up twice.
Words to Reach For
Fifty-four lines across fourteen situations — meltdowns, siblings at war, “you don’t love me,” scared, embarrassed, angry at you. Meant to be read out loud before you need them.
When You Don’t Know What to Do
Ten situations, one instruction each. “Ninety seconds of nothing before the first question.” “Name the behavior. Name the boundary. Stop.”
The Seven-Day Being Seen Reset
Seven days, one small experiment each: presence before questions, specific noticing, six minutes, repair, responding before correcting, protecting one ritual, and telling them who you think they are. Each day lists what to do, what to say and what to watch for. Miss a day and you do that day next.
Pages to Come Back To
Four write-in pages: your automatic reactions, what this child actually needs, what you’re carrying from your own childhood, and what you want them to keep.
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- Ten chapters — one ordinary moment each, from the meltdown to the repair
- 102 lines to say out loud — in the chapters and in the Words to Reach For list
- In every chapter — a page from my own house, what to do when you get it wrong, one thing to try today
- Four tools — Words to Reach For, the quick sheet, the Seven-Day Reset, four write-in pages
- Thirteen sources — the research, with its limits stated
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Questions mothers ask
Tap any question to open it. If yours isn’t here, write to me — I answer every email myself.
My days are already full. Do I have time to read this?
It isn’t built to be read cover to cover. Each chapter is a few pages and ends with one small thing to try today, and Part Two exists for the nights when you have no reading in you at all — ten situations, one instruction each. Most mothers open it at the chapter that matches the evening they just had.
How will I receive it?
A PDF, delivered by Payhip right after checkout — on the confirmation page and by email within minutes. Read it on your phone, tablet or computer, or print the pages you want to keep. If the email hasn’t arrived in an hour, check your spam folder and then write to me.
Can I read it on my phone?
Yes. It’s a PDF, and because every chapter follows the same nine sections, the part you need is in the same place each time.
What’s the refund policy?
Thirty days. Email me and you get the full amount back, no explanation required. I answer refund emails within two business days.
Can I use it with more than one child?
Yes. The moments are written around everyday situations, not one child, so you can use the same words with siblings and adjust them to each child’s age.
How is this different from other parenting books or free posts?
It stays specific. Each chapter starts with a real moment, gives you words to reach for, and ends with one small thing to try. It is meant to be opened on a hard evening, not studied.
Is this clinical advice?
No. It’s an educational parenting guide and doesn’t replace advice from a qualified professional who knows your family. The closing notes say so directly, and explain that the research cited describes patterns across groups, not outcomes in any one home.
Does this expect me to be a calm person?
No. The opening pages say plainly that it won’t ask you to become a calmer version of yourself, and every chapter has a section for the days that don’t go to plan.
What exactly is included?
Part One: ten chapters, each with the same nine sections — the scene, what’s happening underneath, a page from my own house, what the research suggests, the moment to notice, words to reach for, when you get it wrong, one thing to try today and a question to carry. Part Two: the four tools above. Plus a closing letter, notes on the research and thirteen references.